Cassie Crofts, a licensed private investigator in Australia, has identified a consistent pattern among individuals who engage in serial infidelity: a notable lack of long-term friendships. Crofts, who runs Venus Investigations and has handled hundreds of cheating cases, suggests that this deficit in sustained platonic relationships can be a significant warning sign, not only for infidelity but for broader relationship challenges.
According to Crofts, the inability to maintain friendships over extended periods may indicate an individual's difficulty in sustaining relationships in general. She posited that friends may distance themselves if they repeatedly witness the person causing hurt to others. "If his closest friend is someone he met three months ago, that's a big red flag," she stated, emphasizing that this observation is particularly relevant in the early stages of dating.
Crofts also shared other insights derived from her work. She noted that certain occupations tend to have higher rates of infidelity due to factors such as irregular hours, frequent travel, and a lack of direct oversight. These include roles in FIFO (fly-in, fly-out) industries, healthcare with shift work, hospitality, sales representatives who often travel and entertain clients, and senior executives with considerable autonomy.
In addition to the friendship red flag, Crofts has previously offered advice on detecting infidelity through technological means. One such tip involved a method to quickly view a phone's most recently contacted numbers by entering a full stop in the 'To:' field when composing a new text message. She stressed, however, that this technique should only be employed with explicit permission to avoid any implications of unauthorized access.
Crofts also recounted an instance where an Alexa device was instrumental in uncovering a husband's infidelity. The investigation began when a wife, suspecting her husband was unfaithful, noticed classic signs such as unusual spending patterns and unexpected returns home. After initial investigative steps yielded no concrete evidence, Crofts inquired about the presence of an Alexa device, which, due to a specific feature, could potentially reveal hidden activities.
The private investigator's insights aim to provide practical indicators for individuals navigating suspicions of infidelity, focusing on observable patterns in social connections and technological footprints.
