Activist Grace Tame has revealed that her mother intervened when she fled to California at age 18 following sexual abuse by a teacher. Tame described experiencing a breakdown and engaging in what she called "dodgy situations" after leaving Australia.
Speaking on the Cracking On podcast, Tame, now 31, detailed her experience of escaping to the United States shortly after her assault. She purchased a car and drove along the California coast, working on a marijuana farm and struggling with drug abuse. She recalled sleeping in her car, which she had bought for $1,500 and described as likely not roadworthy.
Her mother, Penny, became concerned after Tame lost contact and flew to the U.S. to find her. Tame recounted a dramatic confrontation at a petrol station, during which her mother threatened to report her to the California police after discovering a stash of substances.
Ultimately, Penny Tame helped her daughter secure a job and a permanent residence. Grace Tame, who was named Australian of the Year in 2021, has since become an advocate for survivors of sexual assault. She has previously spoken about her struggles with substance abuse and self-harm in the aftermath of her abuse, noting that such experiences can have lasting impacts and attract predators. Tame stated her intention to use her past trauma to educate others.
Nicolaas Ockert Bester, the former schoolteacher convicted of sexually abusing Tame when she was 15, was jailed in 2011. Tame has spoken out about the ongoing effects of abuse, including drug and alcohol abuse, self-harm, and involvement in unhealthy relationships.