Dear Abby is advising a reader, identified as "Conflicted in Missouri," to seek legal counsel concerning her husband's brother, "Hank." The reader describes Hank as having estranged himself from the family, maintaining little to no contact with his parents and siblings, except when requesting financial assistance.
According to the reader, Hank's wife also refuses to participate in family gatherings. The reader notes that Hank has a pattern of manipulating situations to his advantage, struggling to maintain employment while living beyond his means. While acknowledging underlying issues may contribute to his behavior, the reader expresses exhaustion with his inconsistent presence and expresses concern that Hank may attempt to exploit his aging parents financially.
In her response, Dear Abby, whose real name is Jeanne Phillips, suggests that manipulating older individuals for money can be considered elder abuse. She recommends that the reader and her husband consult an attorney specializing in elder law to discuss their concerns, even if it may seem premature, as such crimes can occur.
Separately, Jeanne Phillips announced her retirement from the "Dear Abby" column after 39 years. She stated that she began writing the column in 1987, following her late mother, Pauline Phillips, who started it on January 9, 1956. Phillips expressed gratitude to her readers for their trust and shared experiences over the years. She plans to travel in her retirement. The column will continue to be written by a "capable editorial staff."