Dear Abby, the enduring advice column penned by Jeanne Phillips, has offered counsel on a variety of reader concerns, including a neighbor's persistent requests, a potentially awkward family situation, and a teenager's anxiety about a personal habit. The column, founded by Phillips' mother Pauline Phillips, addresses the complexities of everyday life for its diverse readership.
One reader, identifying as "Overwhelmed in Ohio," detailed a persistent problem with a new neighbor who frequently knocks on her door seeking items ranging from plastic bags to cigarettes and alcohol. The "Overwhelmed" reader expressed a desire for friendship but felt the dynamic had become one-sided, with the neighbor "taking and I give." Dear Abby advised a direct approach, suggesting the reader inform the neighbor that while she wishes to be considerate, she is "not a convenience store" and does not want to be disturbed daily. The advice also included stating she was "fresh out" of requested items as needed and, if the persistence continued, to address the issue with apartment management.
Another letter, from "In a Dilemma in Pennsylvania," presented a situation where the reader's brother-in-law is dating a woman with whom the reader's husband had a one-night encounter years before their marriage. The reader expressed discomfort about the woman attending family functions and feared potential awkwardness. Dear Abby, in response, stated that the situation is "not a dilemma unless you choose to make it one," emphasizing that a one-night stand from many years ago should not be a threat to the current relationship or family ties. The advice suggested treating any potential awkward remarks with humor or a polite refusal to discuss the matter, encouraging the reader to "act like the lady you are and be cordial."
A 17-year-old from "The West," identifying as "Embarrassed," sought advice about thumb-sucking, a habit he primarily engages in while in bed. His concern is that this habit might be discovered by a college roommate. Dear Abby reassured the reader that he is not alone, noting that other adults have written in about thumb-sucking. The column suggested that stress can be a factor and recommended avoiding excessive tiredness. Another suggestion was to use a bad-tasting substance on the thumbs, which could be found online or at a pharmacy, as a deterrent, combined with the fear of ridicule.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Readers can contact Dear Abby through their website or by mail.