A sex technique known as the 'Kivin method' or 'sideways method' is gaining attention for its potential to deepen intimacy and enhance pleasure during oral sex.
This approach involves the giver positioning themselves across the receiver's body, aligning their lips side-to-side rather than facing head-on. Typically, the receiver raises one or both legs to allow the giver better access. The technique focuses on stimulating the clitoris, vulva, and perineum from a lateral angle with the tongue, which proponents suggest can lead to more intense and broader stimulation.
According to sex therapists and sexologists, this sideways approach naturally alters the type of stimulation provided. It may also offer comfort benefits for the giver, particularly for the neck, potentially allowing for longer durations of intimacy.
"Your hands are free in a different way, so you can easily touch breasts, stomach, thighs, and hips from a new angle, creating a fuller experience," said Sadie Allison, a sexologist and author, noting that internal stimulation can also be more easily incorporated.
The origins of the name 'Kivin' are unclear, but the method has been discussed by sex educators and was mentioned in "The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tantric Sex" in 2001.
The Kivin method can also foster a more connected experience, as the receiver is in a position to more easily caress and touch the giver. Communication about what feels good is emphasized as crucial for maximizing pleasure, with experts encouraging partners to discuss their experiences with the technique.
Variations of the position can be explored, such as the receiver lying on their side with their top leg raised, or the receiver positioned on a couch with the giver kneeling. Incorporating pillows can also adjust angles for comfort and access.
Some practitioners suggest techniques like 'The Velvet Glide,' a slow, steady suction along the entire vulva, to complement the Kivin method's broader stimulation. This approach aims to stimulate multiple pleasure zones, including the inner labia, for heightened sensation.
Experts advise that open communication and experimentation are key, as individual responses to any sexual technique can vary. Stretching beforehand is also recommended to improve comfort and flexibility during sexual activity.