Madelynn May, a Las Vegas-based adult performer, says she receives more than 100 daily messages from men who are anxious about the size of their penises and has made a point of offering reassurance and practical advice.
May, who has worked in adult entertainment for five years, told Jam Press that she tells correspondents not to compare themselves to what they see on screen and that many of the images they use as reference are unrealistic. “They shouldn’t feel ashamed about something they can’t control,” she said. “The only representation men really see is through pornography, where, of course, all the guys are huge, because it’s entertainment. But that’s not real.”
May said she fields everything from short expressions of insecurity to photos of men’s genitalia, and that she typically responds with encouragement, practical tips and, when asked, sexual advice aimed at helping partners better please one another. “Usually, I’ll say that they have a pretty penis or answer questions if there’s anything in particular that they want to know,” she said. “Some guys, who are in relationships or dating, worry about pleasing their partner, so I might give some tips as well. Every penis deserves attention.”
She stressed that concerns about size are not limited to men with smaller-than-average anatomy. May said she has seen male performers with large penises worry about being “too big,” including altering photographs to make themselves appear smaller. She said she has filmed scenes with men of varying sizes, “from four inches to 14,” and that “they all feel good.”
May’s outreach is part of what she describes as a broader push for body confidence among men. She said body-positivity campaigns have historically targeted women and that men deserve similar messages of self-acceptance. “I’ve realized how big an issue this is and how insecure a lot of guys are – and I wish they didn’t feel that way about themselves,” she said. “Body positivity goes for all genders.”
Financially, May said her career in adult entertainment has been lucrative. She told Jam Press she makes more than $1.8 million a year, brings in over $150,000 a month on subscription service OnlyFans and has built a following of more than 660,000 on Instagram. May said she started stripping to make ends meet after a period in which she relied on food stamps and lived in her parents’ basement, and that she now owns two homes and several cars.
May said she values the financial independence her work has brought, but that she also places importance on using her platform to promote self-worth beyond physical measurements. She described her responses to anxious messages as part of a mission to change the narrative around male body image and to remind people that self-esteem should not be tied solely to anatomical measurements.
May’s comments add to ongoing conversations about how sexual media can shape expectations and body-image concerns. She emphasized what she views as a practical takeaway for men who feel inadequate: avoid comparison with staged or edited pornographic portrayals and focus on communication and technique with partners. "It's about changing the narrative and reminding people that self-worth comes from who you are — not a measurement," she said.