Women Share Grief and Call for Suicide Prevention in Sports

Debbie Beard and Amanda Thorpe, widows of former football manager Matt Beard and cricketer Graham Thorpe respectively, are publicly sharing their stories to advocate for a new nationwide suicide prevention toolkit aimed at sports organizations. The initiative, supported by The Royal Foundation and the Prince of Wales, seeks to integrate suicide prevention into the culture of sports at all levels.

Personal Tragedies and Shared Grief

Debbie Beard lost her husband, Matt Beard, in September 2025. He is believed to have died by suicide, with an inquest pending. Amanda Thorpe's husband, Graham Thorpe, died by suicide in 2024 after what his wife described as a “spiralled into depression” following his dismissal as a batting coach in 2022. The two women, who met at the toolkit launch, shared their experiences with the BBC's Simon Jack, who also disclosed his father's suicide when he was 17.

Amanda Thorpe expressed her belief that her husband might still be alive had he received more support from the England and Wales Cricket Board (ECB) after leaving his coaching role. The ECB has called Thorpe's passing a “stark reminder” of mental health challenges. Matt Beard died a month after a brief two-month tenure as manager of Burnley Women. The club has stated they will not comment due to an ongoing legal process.

Both women recounted the difficult periods their husbands faced after losing their jobs. Graham Thorpe, described as a tough competitor who loved life, struggled during the COVID-19 pandemic. His job loss in 2022 came as a shock, compounded by embarrassment over a leaked video. Amanda Thorpe noted that he had been receiving therapy but believes he needed more intensive support, possibly residential, which they did not know how to access.

Debbie Beard described changes in her husband's behavior after his sacking, including increased alcohol consumption and risk-taking. Despite her inquiries, Matt Beard often assured her he was “all right,” wanting to shield his family from his struggles. He had spoken about his mental health with his brother but not openly with his wife.

The Role of Sport and Support Systems

The toolkit, named "On Your Side," aims to make suicide prevention as integral to sports as training and performance. Simon Jack highlighted the extensive reach of sports and the close relationships between coaches and athletes, suggesting that individuals within sports organizations are well-positioned to notice signs of distress.

Debbie Beard emphasized the need for open conversations and support when individuals seek help. She noted the importance of a trusting relationship with a therapist, allowing individuals to feel comfortable expressing their innermost feelings. Both women stressed that while the physical aspect of well-being is often prioritized in sports, the mental side requires equal attention and exploration.

Moving Forward and Preventing Future Tragedies

Both Debbie Beard and Amanda Thorpe shared the profound grief and practical challenges that follow such a loss, including financial strain and the ongoing responsibility of caring for children. They expressed anger and frustration, grappling with the "what ifs" and the desire to have done more.

Despite their pain, the women are determined to use their experiences to drive change. They have found solace in each other's company and plan to continue meeting, becoming a united force to make their voices heard and prevent other families from enduring similar tragedies. Their shared goal is to highlight the issue and ensure that adequate support is available when people need it.