Woman Receives Creepy Letter From Dating Site Match After Three Years

A woman in New Jersey reported feeling unsafe after receiving a letter from a man she met on a dating website three years prior, who admitted to finding her address through online searches. The woman had initially met the man through the dating site but ended contact after a few phone calls, citing "weird vibes" and a lack of compatibility. She stated that he continued to contact her after her rejection until she blocked his number.

Three years passed without any contact before the letter arrived at her home. In the letter, the man wrote, "Lately, with a little searching, I was able to find what might be your address so I thought I would write." He recalled their previous brief conversations and mentioned details she had shared, such as her daughter moving interstate and her intention to continue practicing law remotely.

While the letter's tone was described as friendly, the circumstances of its delivery deeply concerned the woman. She was particularly unsettled by the man's suggestion of meeting up, especially since he lived in a different state. The fact that he had obtained her home address after she had clearly indicated she was not interested in a relationship, and had subsequently blocked his contact, left her feeling vulnerable.

The woman faced a dilemma: responding might verify her address and reopen communication, but ignoring him could lead him to attempt further contact, potentially in person. She expressed fear that if she ignored him, "he just might take a ride to visit me in person."

Ultimately, the woman decided not to respond directly to the man. Instead, she filed an incident report with the police and arranged for a cease and desist letter to be sent, formally requesting him to stop all contact. This action allowed her to establish a clear boundary without personally re-engaging in a conversation she had ended years earlier. Her experience highlights the potential for personal information to be pieced together online and how such information can be used for unwanted contact long after initial interactions cease.