Stephen Graham Taught Daughter to Punch Due to Safety Fears
The actor expressed concern for women's safety and discussed societal issues contributing to violence.
Actor Stephen Graham has revealed that he taught his daughter how to throw a punch from a young age, motivated by concerns for her safety around men. Graham, 53, stated that he wanted his daughter, Grace, now 21, to possess the ability to defend herself if she were ever in danger.
Graham shared these sentiments on Fearne Cotton's Happy Place podcast, noting that while the ability to throw a punch can be associated with aggression, it also serves as a form of self-defense. He commented on the broader societal implications, stating, "The fact that we're having to have that conversation shows where we are as a society." He expressed a desire for his daughter to at least have some means to protect herself, acknowledging that societal changes are necessary.
His remarks coincide with the public discussion sparked by his Netflix drama "Adolescence," which explores themes of violence against women, toxic masculinity, and the influence of online communities on young men. The series centers on a 13-year-old boy arrested for the murder of a female classmate, with Graham portraying the father.
Graham indicated that the inspiration for "Adolescence" partly stemmed from real-life reports of girls being killed by boys. He recalled reading about a fatal stabbing in Liverpool involving boys of a similar age to the character, which deeply affected him and prompted reflection on how such violence could occur.
The creators of "Adolescence" aimed not to claim they could change society but to examine the roots of such violence and raise awareness. Graham explained, "We weren't trying to change anything. We weren't trying to do anything specific. We just wanted to raise awareness and bring attention to this thing that was happening at the time and to have a proper look at it." He added that the series sought to open dialogues between young people and their families.
Graham's latest work, "Letters To Our Sons," co-authored with psychology lecturer Orly Klein, addresses the challenges faced by young men today. He highlighted the impact of social media, which exposes young people to numerous conflicting messages about behavior and identity. Graham noted that young men can become preoccupied with online portrayals of success, such as wealth and material possessions.
He emphasized the importance of fostering empathy and love in young men, rather than solely condemning them. Graham observed, "Irrespective of your political views, ultimately, you want to raise a young man who has empathy and love." He also commented on the current societal divisions and the prevalence of animosity.
Discussing evolving notions of masculinity, Graham suggested that vulnerability is a key masculine trait and that open communication is essential for both sons and daughters. He believes this approach can help alleviate the pressure of carrying burdens alone.