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Emma Moore found solace in creating a memorial garden after her daughter Mabel died shortly after birth. She explained that the idea of visiting a traditional cemetery felt too distant, and she desired a more accessible and daily reminder of her child.

Mabel was born prematurely at 27 weeks and lived for only two days. Moore, who keeps Mabel's ashes in her home, wanted a special place to feel connected to her daughter. She and her family created a dedicated space in their garden, a place that serves as a daily reminder of Mabel. "So we created something in the garden... [to] always be reminded of her every day," Moore told Morning Live.

Andy Langford, clinical director at Cruse Bereavement Support, noted that the stillness of green spaces can aid in connecting with memories of loved ones. He added that creating a special place of calm for remembrance is possible even without a garden or extensive knowledge of plants.

Moore, who had no prior gardening experience, chose to dedicate a section of her garden with a willow tree to Mabel. She found enjoyment in the process of gardening and planting, describing it as a positive focus during her grief. Among the flowers planted, white lilies are a particular favorite, traditionally representing peace and used in acts of remembrance in the UK. Botanist James Wong of BBC Gardeners' Question Time explained that lilies are low-maintenance and can last for decades, with various varieties suitable for different soil types. Wong also advised that flower color choice is personal and not bound by tradition, suggesting that soft pinks, mauves, and lilacs might be relaxing, while yellows and reds could be more uplifting.

Wong highlighted the role of scent in connecting with nature and enhancing the atmosphere of a memorial space. He recommended plants with fragrant leaves, such as mint, eucalyptus, or rose geranium, which offer scent even when flowers are not in bloom. He also suggested Italian cypresses, which, though more common in warmer climates, can grow well outdoors in the UK and have a woody aroma. Chrysanthemums, described as a classic funeral flower in East Asian cultures, also grow well and have a herbal fragrance.

Moore has placed a bench with a plaque bearing Mabel's name near the willow tree, where she often sits with a cup of tea. Langford commented that benches in public memorial gardens offer a sense of permanence and a place to rest from daily stresses. For those without gardens, Wong suggested commemorative houseplants like the peace lily, which thrives indoors in low light and warm conditions, or frangipanis, which do well in bright, warm indoor spaces. The family's memorial garden also features a swing surrounded by flower-filled planters, a space that has brought Moore comfort and reflection during her grieving process.