Valerie, a 74-year-old from Somerset, has become a kinship carer for her two great-granddaughters, a decision she says saved her as much as it helped them. She took on the responsibility after her daughter, who had been caring for the children, died suddenly. Valerie's story comes during Kinship Care Week, an initiative aimed at recognizing the vital role kinship carers play.
Valerie found herself unexpectedly becoming the primary caregiver for the girls, managing not only their grief but also the practicalities of running a household. She described the experience of returning to parenting in her seventies as daunting, admitting she was scared about the future and her ability to care for the children until they turned 18.
She revealed that she had faced criticism from some friends who suggested she was being selfish and that the children might be better off with younger adoptive parents. However, Valerie felt confident in her decision, knowing the girls well, maintaining reasonably good health, and possessing enough energy to provide them with a loving home.
Valerie has received significant support from Somerset Council's kinship team, particularly from her case worker, Charlotte Stiles. Stiles has provided guidance, attended school meetings, and offered constant support, making the transition and ongoing care much smoother. Stiles expressed admiration for Valerie's commitment, noting it as an incredible sacrifice that ensures the girls have the best possible life.
The council's kinship team works to support families in the county, helping children to remain connected to their family network when it is safe and appropriate to do so. Valerie's experience underscores the profound impact and dedication involved in kinship care, often an invisible but crucial form of support within communities.