Dear Abby is addressing a reader's frustration with the overwhelming volume of fundraising mail received after making donations to charities. The reader, who supports children's cancer research hospitals, has seen an increase in appeals, with one charity sending multiple mailings weekly and even attempting to solicit "legacy program" donations. The donor also reported receiving unwanted phone calls, texts, and emails, despite only providing a mailing address.
In her response, Abby, also known as Jeanne Phillips, confirmed that charities and nonprofits do share or sell donor contact information. This practice can lead to a deluge of mail and other communications. To mitigate the influx, Abby advises the reader to write directly to the charities requesting to be removed from their rental or exchange mailing lists. Including the mailing label or return card with the request and adding correct postage for returns is recommended. According to Give.org, a Better Business Bureau standard requires charities to offer donors an opt-out opportunity at least annually.
The column also addressed a separate concern from a reader about their financially struggling 52-year-old brother. The brother, described as gullible and easily taken advantage of, refuses help. The 50-year-old sibling is contemplating seeking guardianship for his brother, despite worries that it could further damage their already strained relationship. The reader expressed concern about potential financial mismanagement and a desire to honor their late mother's wishes.
Abby suggested that the reader consult an attorney regarding guardianship. She also emphasized the importance of discussing the matter directly with the brother, even though the conversation may be uncomfortable for both parties. The advice for this situation was given in the context of the mother passing away the previous year.