Couples' Intimate Moments Interrupted 18 Times a Year, Survey Finds

Couples in serious relationships experience interruptions during intimate moments an average of 18 times per year, according to a new survey. The research indicates that over a quarter of these interruptions can end the romantic encounter for the night, and more than half of those affected report feeling less close to their partner afterward.

The survey, conducted by Talker Research on behalf of Hunny Labs for its After Hours Report, polled 1,000 Americans aged 25 to 54 who are in serious relationships. The findings highlight the significant impact external factors can have on intimacy.

Common Disruptions

The most frequent cause of interruption, cited by 49% of respondents, is the presence of children or another person in the home. This figure rises to 68% for parents with children under 18.

"Couples don't realize how much intimacy relies on the feeling that, for a little while, nothing else needs their attention," said Brent Dyer, a licensed professional counselor. "When a kid needs something, a phone lights up in a buzz of urgency, or a game starts, the interruption might be minor and short, but the mental shift can be large."

Other common disruptions include one partner being too tired (39%), followed by a phone ringing or buzzing (35%). Household noises accounted for 25% of interruptions, pets getting in the way for 24%, and doorbells or deliveries for 22%. Physical discomfort and lingering thoughts of work or chores also contributed to disruptions.

For couples whose pets sleep in the bedroom, half reported a pet disrupting intimate moments, compared to 11% of those without pets in the bedroom.

Despite these frequent disruptions, 53% of respondents expressed a desire to be intimate with their partner more often than they currently are. "Couples aren't losing desire — they're losing the hour," said Becky Robinson, co-founder of Hunny Labs. "What gets in the way is what we call the pause."

Setting the Scene and Maintaining Connection

To create a more conducive atmosphere, 77% of respondents noted they have few established "signals" to prepare for intimacy. When signals are used, they include locking the door (38%), putting phones away (31%), playing music (29%), or adjusting lighting (27%).

Despite these efforts, two-thirds of couples keep their phones within reach during intimate encounters, with only 7% typically leaving their phone in another room. To minimize interruptions, 31% of those who have been interrupted have scheduled dedicated time, 30% have discussed the issue with their partner, and 18% have moved pets out of the bedroom.

The Importance of Post-Intimacy Connection

While 79% of respondents agree that the time immediately following an intimate moment is as important as the moment itself, fewer than half (48%) report staying close afterward. Additionally, 27% admit to checking their phones within the first five minutes.

Dr. Jenn Kennedy, a sex and couples therapist, noted, "Busy couples in longer-term relationships have so many competing priorities, so sex often goes to the wayside. When they do make time for it, small interruptions can easily derail their best intentions. One of the biggest culprits is technology, so I encourage leaving phones on silent or out of the bedroom altogether."

Research Methodology:

Talker Research surveyed 1,000 Americans aged 25 to 54 in cohabiting or regular-partner relationships, balanced by gender, who have internet access. The survey was commissioned by Hunny Labs and administered online by Talker Research between October 7 and October 9, 2026.