The increasing sophistication of artificial intelligence has introduced a new, complex question into relationship dynamics: How do AI companions fit into the boundaries of a romantic partnership?
AI companion apps, such as Joi AI, eva AI, and Candy.ai, allow users to create digital partners for conversation, emotional support, and building ongoing connections. While some use these tools for entertainment, others are forming what feel like intimate relationships, prompting discussions about whether an emotional connection with an AI can constitute infidelity.
Personal experiences highlight the growing dilemma. Olivia, 31, discovered her boyfriend extensively using ChatGPT, confiding personal matters and receiving ego boosts that she felt were previously shared only with her. Anna, 42, questioned her husband's use of an AI dating companion, finding his assertion that it was "all fake" insufficient to allay her concerns.
Some individuals perceive the use of AI in romantic contexts as a significant issue. Kelly, 22, ended a budding relationship when a date revealed he used an AI companion to practice flirting, describing it as an "ick."
According to LELO's 2026 Futurist Report, a significant portion of individuals aged 18 to 45 have integrated AI into their intimate lives in various ways, from planning dates to exploring intimacy.
Experts suggest that the appeal of AI companions can stem from their ability to fill gaps in human relationships. Licensed clinical social worker Jaime Bronstein, relationship expert at Joi AI, notes that AI companions offer a space for users to think aloud, vent, or rehearse difficult conversations without burdening a human partner. This can be particularly valuable for those in long-distance relationships or with partners who have demanding schedules.
Relationship therapist Amy Sutton emphasizes the importance of understanding what needs AI companions are fulfilling. She suggests that no single partner can meet every individual's needs and that AI can provide a source of validation or a space for self-exploration. Sutton advises users to examine the underlying reasons for turning to AI, such as novelty, validation, or a place to process emotions, and to consider if these needs could be met within real-life relationships.
For some, AI companions serve as a way to explore personal interests that they may be hesitant to share with a human partner. Michael, 31, uses an AI app to explore sexual interests like degradation and female dominance, citing concerns about his girlfriend's potential judgment.
Whether AI companionship constitutes cheating remains a personal definition for each couple, dependent on their established boundaries and expectations. Sutton stresses that explicit conversations about what constitutes flirting, emotional intimacy, and secrecy are crucial, particularly for monogamous couples who may assume alignment without discussing it.
Dating coach Sabrina Zohar advises couples to first address unmet needs within the relationship, viewing the use of AI as a symptom rather than the root problem. She emphasizes that secrecy is a key indicator of a potential issue, suggesting that if a partner would hide AI interactions, it signals a breach of trust.
As AI continues to integrate into daily life, experts recommend open and ongoing dialogue between partners about the role AI plays in their relationship, ensuring mutual understanding and continued choice in their commitment to each other.