Columnist Abigail Van Buren, known as Dear Abby, recently provided guidance to readers navigating difficult workplace dynamics and personal relationships. In one letter, a reader, identifying as "Vampire Victim," described a persistent and draining coworker named Bev, who is domineering, bullying, and entitled.
Bev, in her late 50s, has reportedly worked with "Vampire Victim" for 12 years. The coworker frequently calls to discuss personal matters, demeans others, and is controlling and rude. Despite appearing busy, Bev allegedly has colleagues complete her work while she takes credit. This behavior has negatively impacted "Vampire Victim's" mental health, with the coworker initiating at least ten calls daily and engaging in lengthy personal conversations. The situation is compounded by Bev's apparent friendship with their boss, Janet, which "Vampire Victim" fears prevents any recourse.
Dear Abby advised "Vampire Victim" to have a private conversation with Janet, detailing the unwelcome calls, bullying, and rudeness. The columnist suggested asking Janet if she truly supports Bev's behavior and whether her friendship with Bev shields her from consequences. While acknowledging the possibility of Janet siding with Bev, Abby noted that this would at least clarify the situation.
In a separate query, a reader named "Ready in North Carolina" expressed a desire to deepen a relationship with a male friend. Both individuals are divorced and estranged from their families. "Ready" has not been in a relationship for three years and wonders about her appeal, despite describing herself as having a great personality and being "a bit overweight."
Dear Abby suggested that while personality is key, if "Ready" suspects her weight is a deterrent, she should consult a doctor about a healthy eating plan and consider joining a gym. Dear Abby was founded by Pauline Phillips and is currently written by her daughter, Jeanne Phillips.